When I talk to parents about including their kids in what’s going on financially with the household, I get one of three responses:
1) I’m the parent, they’re the child. Money matters is a grown up issue and kids shouldn’t be involved.
2) Why would I want to burden my child with that kind of stress?
3) If I told my kids about the bills we have, they would say it wasn’t their problem as they weren’t the ones to make the decisions about what to buy!
Kids can handle more than you think. People tend to believe that managing money is something you’ll just figure out how to do when you become an adult. But we do nothing to prepare kids for this responsibility as they grow. Don’t let your belief that kids are too immature to handle this kind of information keep them in the dark. They must be prepared for managing money, and the best way to learn that is through their parents.
Stress is a choice. We work so hard to protect and shelter our kids from the trials of life, that we think this is benefiting them some how. Managing money can be a stressful experience, but it’s a necessary life skill. Show your kids how you handle a stressful money situation so they can be prepared to do the same as they get older.
Bring in the mail. The best way to get your kids involved with understanding household finances is to have them bring in the mail. That’s it. Choose the most irresponsible child you have, and make it their new chore to bring in the mail everyday. It’s their job to sort through it and identify the junk. Create a list of expected bills and give that to your child. Have your child check off each bill as it’s received, and keep them all together in a file. When all are received, have him or her bring the file to you so you can pay the bills.
Kids need to see what actually goes on financially to run a household. Let them see that maxed out Visa bill. Show them what bills didn’t get paid because you had to repair the water-heater. Give them an understanding of managing all the paperwork involved with paying bills. This is invaluable life skills that they’ll need in the next few years.
And for the parent that says, “my child would never be responsible enough to manage this task.” I say to you, if they can’t handle this task at the age of 16, how do you expect them to handle it at 23?